How to find a Spouse.
Many people (including myself) have stressed out over finding "the one" whom God has in store for us. What if my person is in China? How can I know who it is? My eyes have been opened recently. That person isn't chosen by God. I'll explain.
You see, God has a sovereign (mountains, out of the way) and moral (the Bible) will for every person, but I don't believe God has an individual will (or "blue print") that we need to somehow figure out. God is sovereign, and His sovereignty extends beyond that. God will take care of things no matter what you do inside of the context of His moral will.
God's will isn't about WHERE you are, it is about the KIND of person you are. THAT'S God's will. There isn't some line that you're supposed to trace, Think of it like this,
Let's say your Grandmother bakes 3 different types of cookies for you, but you can only choose 1. There is chocolate chip, oatmeal raisin, and rainbow. Now, what are you going to do? What should you do? You know your Grandma. You know she made them for you. Should you ask your Grandma what cookie you should eat? Is it necessary? Is your Grandmother going to say,
"Here, I made three different cookies but you BETTER CHOOSE OATMEAL or else you're wrong!"
No, of course not. Your Grandma wants you to just pick which one you like the most and take it. She doesn't care which one you pick, because they are all cookies made for you to choose regardless.
In the same way,
God has made many different men and women who are living within the context of God's moral will. You don't have to stress out about which is THE ONE that God wants for you. If they are in God's moral will, then God doesn't care which one you choose. Pick the one you like the most. God's sovereign will goes beyond that and we should be thankful for it. You want a husband or wife, make sure they are living by the word of God and choose the one you like.
What would make you feel more wanted, being the only option and then being chosen as a husband or wife or being one of many options and being chosen as a husband or wife? If you were the only option then it would degrade the value of the choice.
So then, when you choose, God has chosen, and when God chooses, you have chosen. The person you choose will be the person God chooses, and the person God chooses will be the person you choose. You must stay with that person until you die, for you have chosen to make that commitment. It is all done for the glory of God. The goal of men should be to love their wives as Christ first loved the church. The goal of women should be to submit to and respect their husbands as the church should submit to and respect our Lord and savior, Jesus Christ.
You see, God has a sovereign (mountains, out of the way) and moral (the Bible) will for every person, but I don't believe God has an individual will (or "blue print") that we need to somehow figure out. God is sovereign, and His sovereignty extends beyond that. God will take care of things no matter what you do inside of the context of His moral will.
God's will isn't about WHERE you are, it is about the KIND of person you are. THAT'S God's will. There isn't some line that you're supposed to trace, Think of it like this,
Let's say your Grandmother bakes 3 different types of cookies for you, but you can only choose 1. There is chocolate chip, oatmeal raisin, and rainbow. Now, what are you going to do? What should you do? You know your Grandma. You know she made them for you. Should you ask your Grandma what cookie you should eat? Is it necessary? Is your Grandmother going to say,
"Here, I made three different cookies but you BETTER CHOOSE OATMEAL or else you're wrong!"
No, of course not. Your Grandma wants you to just pick which one you like the most and take it. She doesn't care which one you pick, because they are all cookies made for you to choose regardless.
In the same way,
God has made many different men and women who are living within the context of God's moral will. You don't have to stress out about which is THE ONE that God wants for you. If they are in God's moral will, then God doesn't care which one you choose. Pick the one you like the most. God's sovereign will goes beyond that and we should be thankful for it. You want a husband or wife, make sure they are living by the word of God and choose the one you like.
What would make you feel more wanted, being the only option and then being chosen as a husband or wife or being one of many options and being chosen as a husband or wife? If you were the only option then it would degrade the value of the choice.
So then, when you choose, God has chosen, and when God chooses, you have chosen. The person you choose will be the person God chooses, and the person God chooses will be the person you choose. You must stay with that person until you die, for you have chosen to make that commitment. It is all done for the glory of God. The goal of men should be to love their wives as Christ first loved the church. The goal of women should be to submit to and respect their husbands as the church should submit to and respect our Lord and savior, Jesus Christ.
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